When You Should Seek Bereavement Therapy From Professionals
Loss, grief, and bereavement, it’s something we all experience in our lifetime, but it doesn’t ever get any easier. Whether you have the support of friends and family around you, it is often a lonely and isolating time, with a rush of various emotions. Firstly, it is so important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve somebody. It is okay to feel vulnerable, it is okay to feel angry and it is okay to cry.
Feeling emotions is probably one of the hardest things to do. We don’t like to be sad; we don’t like to hurt, and we don’t like to feel pain. We also don’t like to talk about things that will bring us sadness.
If you have ever seen the movie Inside Out, the character Sadness says:
“Crying helps me slow down and obsess over the weight of life’s problems.”
This acts as a reminder that allowing ourselves to cry and feel emotions is one of the very things that will move us forwards to the next stage of the chapters in our lives.
Grief Therapy can facilitate that process for you.
When Should You Seek Bereavement Therapy?
If you have lost a loved one.
If you have lost somebody close to you, such as a parent, family member, friend, partner, child, or pet. Grief is not always tangible; it could be a miscarriage and the loss of what could have been.
There is no timescale on when you can get bereavement therapy. The recent passing of a loved one can leave you in an intense stage of grief and overwhelming sadness, and people often seek counselling as a result.
But people who have experienced loss years into the past can also want counselling due to complicated or prolonged grief and even for the impact grief has had on themselves and their lives.
You begin to feel depressed.
A tragic loss can have a significant impact on a person’s mental health and emotional well-being. Bereavement can lead to an increased risk of depression. For some, the intense pain and sadness remains over a long period of time and begins to result in depressive symptoms, in cases like this, seeking professional help is crucial.
If you already have a history of mental health issues such as depression or anxiety, then you should definitely consider bereavement therapy after a loss, as you may be vulnerable to the development of depressive symptoms.
If you feel yourself falling into a destructive cycle, you should think about getting professional support.
• After a long period of time, your grief is still interfering with your daily functioning, such as difficulty with eating, sleeping and self-care.
• You are isolating yourself from the world and alienating yourself from friends, family, and social interaction/activities.
• If you have or are thinking about turning to substances (drugs, alcohol, etc.) as a way to cope with the grief.
• If you are being impacted at work or school.
• You feel you can not express your emotions or talk about the loss to friends and family. If you feel angry or disassociated from life and don’t understand why.
Vimi, a bereavement therapist from My Solution Wellbeing advises:
There is no easy way to go through grief. You can’t go under it or over it, you have to go through it. Sometimes you wouldn’t necessarily know that you are finding things hard. People think that grief is linear, however there are different stages of grief, and you wouldn’t necessarily go from one stage to another. You go back and forth. It is this process that takes the most out of you, the strength and resilience it takes to live with a loss is draining as you think you will get better and better each day until you hear a song, or in this day and age a memory flashes up on your phone or social media and you are catapulted back to that moment. You then feel that you should be coping better, and there must be something wrong, there is nothing “wrong”. You are simply grieving. This is where a counsellor or therapist can support you to cope with this process of grieving.
It’s like a cake mix: you add the ingredients (coping strategies learned through counselling) a little at a time to make the cake rise again. Just as counselling and therapy will support you to “rise” again.
It’s important to recognise that seeking help is a sign of strength and a proactive step towards healing. If you are unsure whether you need professional support, reaching out with any questions is always a good idea.
If you are recently grieving or feel stuck from a loss from years ago and are considering bereavement therapy, then feel free to reach out to My Solution Wellbeing, where you can get support from Vimi, our grief counselling expert or another one of our experienced bereavement therapists.
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Written By Ria Kaur
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