My Solution Wellbeing offer counselling and treatment for Changing negative thinking and habits. We have a dedicated team based in Coventry and our counsellors are trained in Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), Person centred counselling, Motivational Interviewing Therapy and Mindfulness practise.
Habits are hard to change because, well, they’re habits. There’s a reason why they are hard to break. We actually need most of the habits we have. We go through most of our days engaging in good habits, routines and activities. If we didn’t, everything we did every day would be something we’d have to think about. Instead, we’re wired to learn and put in place activities that sustain us without giving it a moment’s thought.
As we have grown up, we have all developed an inner world. In that world it is you who is central, although we may lose this sense of centrality along the way. In that world, you are in a constant dialogue with yourself and indeed with others too. There is often a drama going on in one’s mind and body. You may find yourself saying things like “it will never work, did I do that right?” or “does he or she really like me?”.
We have in us an ‘inner critic’, call it what you will. It is highly likely this is born out of our experience with ourselves and others and our emotional or cognitive responses to them. This inner critic can happily take charge and affect our lives, including our sense of who we are in any given moment and in life situations we are a part of.
This inner critic which may at times help us to be cautious in certain situations, can become detrimental to our daily living. Its influence is like having a voice in all corners and aspects of our lives; eating away at our self-esteem, self-image and our relational endeavours with others.